“It’s not me, it’s you” is an easy way out, but it’s not always true. Sometimes, it’s all you – and that’s okay.

We all get into disagreements, or decide that things aren’t working in a relationship (platonic or romantic), but we’re usually way to quick to put the blame on others. It’s time to start owning up when it’s your fault. Whether you did something wrong, or you’re just not feeling it anymore, take the blame. This time it wasn’t them, it was you, take it in and accept it – now deal with it.

It’s crazy how much respect you can gain from the people around you when you swallow your pride and own up to your mistakes, or feelings. I’m not just talking about arguments, this applies anytime you blame others for situations. We are grown ups, and grown up take responsibility for their actions and feelings.

A lot of us have grown up being told we’re always right, our parents protect us by telling us there is nothing wrong with us (cue the millennial-shaming), but it has really led us to believe we are never the problem. Everyone is at fault from time to time, there isn’t anything wrong with that – it’s human nature, we make mistakes. How we handle these situations is what’s most important.

Admitting you were wrong is not the end of the world, and apologizing when you’ve hurt someone will not kill you.

I think we can all benefit from spending a lil time self reflecting and acknowledging when we’ve been at fault, no matter how minor it is. Self awareness is extremely important, and there’s never a time when it’s okay to put the entire blame on others.

Think of it this way, how would you feel if someone was going around telling everyone that the reason you don’t talk anymore is because of something you didn’t actually do – you would feel awful and you would look awful. Don’t do that to someone else, especially if they are or were important to you at some point.