Let’s face it. Creeping has become the norm nowadays; everyone does it, so much that we’re all okay with admitting to it. But whether it’s going through a friend’s Instagram, or hard-core digging on your crush, there’s an unspoken rule that what you find in the DEPTHS will NEVER get talked about (unless it’s between you and your bestie… secrets make friends, right?). Since there are different levels to creeping, we’re here to define the boundary between “harmless” and “you could be recruited by the FBI any day now”.
You may have thought you were just doing a standard check up on your crush, until you found yourself on their ex-girlfriend’s best friend’s profile looking at pictures from their double dates back in ’08.
Snooping VS Creeping
First off, let’s establish a difference between creeping and snooping. Snooping is going through your bf/gf’s emails, texts, and personal documents. This DEFINITELY constitutes as invading privacy; whereas creeping is simply going through what they’ve posted for all to see. So that’s one boundary to keep in mind, another is that creeping is NOT the same as stalking…
There’s a definite boundary between “harmless” and “you could be recruited by the FBI any day now”
Creeping VS Stalking
Stalking is hiding in their bushes; creeping is going back 170 weeks on their Instagram.
Stalking is following them to their part time job; creeping is following them on Twitter.
The (unofficial) Rules and Regs to Creeping*:
- Be careful when you’re creeping your crush’s IG publicly; It’s basically the modern day version of camping out on their front lawn and watching their next move.
- Try sticking to INTENSE creeping while you’re alone, or with a few close friends. Distractions lead to accidents… like double tapping that photo from 3 years ago.
- Never talk about what you only know from creeping. If you didn’t hear it from the creepee’s mouth, (just made that word up); just pretend you don’t know.
*If you’re with your close friends, none of these rules apply.
Snooping is going through your bf/gf’s emails, texts, and personal documents.
Falling Down the Rabbit Hole
Once you start, it’s difficult to stop. Creeping is like Pringles; you can’t just creep one. You may have thought you were just doing a standard check up on your crush, until you found yourself on their ex-girlfriend’s best friend’s profile looking at pictures from their double dates back in ’08. Then you’re back to your crush’s profile wondering why this girl keeps commenting on all the photos of his dog. How does she know his dog? Who is this girl?!?
So, How Far is too Far
Personally, I think it’s too far when you become too invested in a person’s life. If you feel like you NEED to check their profiles on a regular basis, it’s time to take a step back. Another sign that it’s getting next level is when you know nearly as much info about them as you do your closest friends. If you could write their semi-official biography you should probably tone it down a bit.
Tinder is Helping You Cross That Boundary
Tinder is everyone’s favourite app for lowkey hook ups – but before you get to that point you miiight want to know a little more about the candidate. Tinder now gives you access to their life on Instagram, so you can creep actual strangers without having to go out of your way to find their social media. Thanks Tinder.
If you could write their semi-official biography, you should probably tone it down a bit.
Meeting for the “First” Time
There comes a time when we come face-to-face with someone that we know really well… just not IRL. We only know them because we somehow (???) keep stumbling upon their social media profile(s). This is a true test of strength. Are you able to hold yourself together and pretend you don’t know anything about them? Or will you slip up when the convo leads to their reading week trip to Cuba? Do. Not. Slip. Up.
Once someone (including you) puts something on the internet, it’s no longer private; it’s there for everyone to see. It’s been made easily accessible, which is (to me) enough reasoning to look through people’s profiles. You might even be the victim… so if there’s something you don’t want people to find, just don’t post it.